What was my life like before the course?
I react to situations very quickly and emotionally and feel like I am living on my nerves. I look at things from a negative point of view and always feel like people are judging me, especially as a parent. I find it hard to take any advice on board and tend to take any suggestions as criticism. I find it hard to cope when my son isn’t doing as I would like him to do and tend to shout at him in these situations. I find it hard to relax. I feel lonely, lost and have little confidence in myself.
What are the problems and issues?
I am not enjoying motherhood as much as I would like to. I find it hard to control my temper. I feel negative and useless. Relationships are suffering because of this particularly with my husband, son and mum.
What did I take from the course?
The course gave me the time and opportunity to find myself as a person again and to look closely at why I was reacting to situations as I was. I have realised that I need to love myself and that I have all the answers within myself and that I shouldn’t look to others to solve my problems for me.
What really worked for me and my family?
I found the success diaries really useful. They helped me to focus on the positives and not dwell on the negatives and to realise that even on the worst of days there was some good.
I found the Wheel of Life particularly useful in realising that I haven’t focused on myself as a person for such a long time and that really I had forgotten my own dreams.
Setting myself realistic goals gives me a sense of purpose and achievement.
What is my life like now I’ve completed the course?
I feel like I am finding the old me again. I am more relaxed and happy and as such my relationship has improved with both my child and my husband. By listening to my son more and understanding where he is coming from we clash much less and are both much happier and more relaxed.
Words can’t really do justice to how far I feel I’ve come as a person since doing the course, I just feel so much more positive inside.
I am on a journey of self discovery.
What successes have I achieved?
I listen to my son more and feel more connected to him and his needs.
I trust my own instincts and believe in myself
I am more positive and make the decision not to dwell on negative thoughts and to replace them with positive ones
I am less judgemental of others
I put myself in a resourceful state and think situations through rather than react emotionally or lose my temper
I am happier inside
I am learning to love myself!
Mrs KC Parent