Before I started the course, I was a person that seemed to get angry and frustrated over the smallest of things, I felt I was overloaded with work and kids and finding it really hard to juggle everything and consequently letting myself and the people around me down, which resulted in arguments.
I could see the effects of this on my children and how they responded to a situation, which was to shout, there seemed to be a real lack of respect and communication in our family and I just felt myself going around in circles and didn’t really enjoy life. I wanted to break this circle but did not know how.
When I saw the advert for the Parent Champion Course, it felt like someone had read my mind; I rang to sign up straight away. It took me a couple of weeks to open up to the rest of the group and really express myself deeply and I believe this was due to believing others would judge me and my situation, but as time went on, I realized everyone in the group was in the same boat, my trust grew and it was a relief to talk about my situation and I came out of the course feeling empowered and knowing I could change my situation.
The Parent Champion course has helped me by firstly looking at myself and changing things about myself, just making small changes has had such an impact to my family life. The two most important tools I have gained from this course were listening and changing my thought process. I have learnt to listen to my children, actually in-depth listening, sitting there and really getting to know what they’re trying to say and trying to understand it by asking them open questions, which helped them to express themselves a lot more which helped them to communicate and express their feelings and emotions, I in return would also open up and express how I felt about things.
The second tool was the change my thought process, just understanding I could change my thought process at any time and react differently to situations, for instance instead of shouting, I could just walk away, calm down and then deal with the situation, I found this quite hard to do but, reflecting on situations that I have used this skill in, makes me more determined to continue.
Towards the end of the course I felt that things weren’t a problem and more of a challenge, which can be overcome. I have changed my way of thinking and don’t worry about the small things anymore, changing me has changed my husband and children. It is also a challenge to continue with the changes as it’s so easy to fall back into your old ways, that’s why I feel the weekly Family Coaching Café is a great idea as it gives you a boost and reminds you of where you were and where you are now. It is also provides opportunities to make a difference to other people, by talking about your situation and to show them how far you have come and that they could achieve the same.”
Mrs R. Parent